The LORD bless thee, and keep thee, the LORD make his face to shine upon you and be gracious unto you. The LORD lift up his countenance upon you and give you Shalom. Numbers 6:24 -26
“I could write a book, you know, if I could write about the things I know.”
“What sort of things?” she asked.
“Oh, you know, the things that no one talks about. Suicide and schizophrenia, cancer and kidnappings, murder, things that show up on the evening news and everyone says it’s tragic, then goes in to eat their chicken pot pie and fresh tomato/cucumber salad.”
“So why don’t you write it
I seem to spend a great deal of my time wondering what is going to happen next. There is a popular book entitled “The Power of Now” which suggests that to be happy we can only think about what is happening at this moment. If that is true, I am likely not to be happy very often.
I have a goal-oriented focus. For the past three years, I had worked on my Master’s degree in Social Work and looked forward to the day I would graduate, which happened on May 16, 2005. I was depressed that day, if I remember correctly. A friend of mine “threw” me a party, and all I could think about was that I was leaving in 3 days for Europe. I especially looked forward to visiting the villages near Strasbourg, France in which my great-great-great-great (well, you get the drift) grandparents lived and courted. The particular great grandmother’s grave I was looking for was Marguerite…my namesake. I’d always had a deja vu romantic connection to her. I found about a dozen gravesites with the name of Marguerite, but none of them fit the time period I was looking for. Still…I was in the vicinity. I lit candles for my children in the small country church in the village of Ebenbach. I imagined that first Marguerite kneeling at the altar and praying for well-being and happiness for herself and her children. She died in childbirth.
What does all that have to do with goals? Well, the goal has always been to write a book about the fabled Marguerite LeBeau and the fated boat trip that her husband would take after her death. The children orphaned at the port of St. Louis and when the family fortune was found missing, the conventional wisdom was that it built the St. Louis Cathedral.
So I’ve been looking back at the family tragedies. After all, the family fortune turned out just to be another fantasy, sort of like the novel I’ve never written.
And the delight that would come with earning a social work degree?? As short-lived as the family fortune. Almost immediately upon being conferred the degree, demands were made by my employer to take the certification test and seek licensure. More study, more tests, more outlay of cash.
When will today be enough???
I wanted to be the kind of Mother I imagined my grandmother was with her small children, I couldn’t even be the kind of Mother that my mother was, and while she wasn’t the gold standard (that would be Mam-maw) she was a far sight better than I could ever be. That’s not modesty, or false humility, just clean, unvarnished truth. I’m reading a book by Elizabeth Berg in which she espouses truth, freedom and breaking old habits, letting go of the past, letting go of the hindrances you created for yourself.
One of her characters wants the people in her life to tell the truth no matter how much it hurts someone. I come to a conclusion that the lies I tell aren’t necessarily to protect anyone from hurt, other than myself! White lies, we used to call them, niceties, those things you do to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. Cowardice, really. I think there must be a way to tell the truth without judgment or rancor. I plan to try it. I wonder how it would be to only speak the truth and only hear the truth. Could we bear it?
Emily Dickinson said, “tell all the truth, but tell it slant, success in circuit lies.” Truth was too bright for us, she indicated, if it didn’t dazzle us slowly, it would blind us. Like seeing God, I guess. I’ve made a masterpiece of telling the truth so distorted that it was more of a mountain than a slant, almost vertical. Most of the people in my life have done the same. Or if they didn’t, I quickly rooted them out.
So many of my childhood memories are tied up with food, Mam-maw and the Sabbath (which I later learned wasn’t strictly the biblical Sabbath, since that would have been a Saturday, but my grandfather called Sunday the Sabbath, and whatever he said was gospel!) Sunday mornings were a whirl of activity, afternoons were given over to rest, Sunday evening, more activity, and then, blessed be, came Sunday supper.
Mam-maw cooked breakfast every morning and Sunday was no exception. Scrambled eggs, always scrambled, never sunny side up or over easy, in which she whisked evaporated milk and crumbled breakfast meat, such as ground sausage or bacon. Occasionally and only very occasionally, she would cut hot dogs into small pieces and drop them into the mixture. Those were the days before any warnings about processed foods, preservatives and red food coloring, and so we freely ate frankfurters, bologna and pickle loaf! My favorite breakfast food was homemade strawberry preserves on toast, or maybe blackberry, or cherry, well I liked almost any kind of preserve, jam or jelly. I didn’t care for orange marmalade, but I would eat it if it were the only sweetness available. My grandmother believed that there should be something sweet with every meal. Alas for my now expanding waistline, I continue to feel the same way!
I grew up on spaghetti and meat loaf, hot dogs wrapped in crescent rolls and stuffed with cheese, fried pork chops and gravy, fried chicken and gravy, fried anything and yes, with gravy. I ate everything my grandmother put on the table, there were only two things I didn’t like. Later in life I learned there were many foods I’d never tried and some of them I didn’t like, either, but growing up, there were only 2 foods i didn’t like, beets and carrots. Didn’t matter how they were prepared, I couldn’t abide them. When my grandmother cooked liver and onions, with side dishes of spinach and mashed potatoes, I was thrilled. Other things like okra, brussels sprouts, broccoli, all manner of squashes and beans, were welcome sights on my plate. I also craved my grandmother’s homemade pimiento cheese, which I make to this day when I need real comfort food. The secret ingredient was Velveeta cheese! And even though I strive to eat healthier now, sometimes Velveeta is the only thing that will satisfy my longing.
Visiting other people’s homes was very trying for me. Traditional fare was served, such as pot roast with the requisite potatoes onions and carrots, fried chicken with mashed potatoes, gravy and peas or corn. If someone went outside the box and cooked a ham, they would cover it with orange marmalade, and I’ve already told you how I feel about that! At every meal, I was required to eat everything on my plate, which was never a problem for me, except when we visited someone else’s home. At my house, I could say, I don’t want any of that, and avoid carrots and beets completely. But, visiting, I was told I had to try some of everything and then I had to eat it all whether I liked it or not. It made for a very unhappy Sunday afternoon. I didn’t understand at the time how two people could cook the exact same food and one dish (my grandmother’s) would be scrumptiou and the other dish (anybody else’s) would taste horrible. Mam-maw cooked ordinary food extraordinarily well. Her seasonings were simple, salt, no pepper, sometimes a little bit of garlic, thyme, or oregano. Some of the things people put in gravy are unforgivable. Mrs. Delaney used so much pepper that I would have sneezing fits and be told to leave the table (which I welcomed greatly!) And I swore that Mrs. Kaufman used dirt instead of cocoa in her hot chocolate!!
On the rare Sunday when we weren’t invited to have lunch with a member of the congregation, we ate at a restaurant. Always the same one. I have no idea what the name of it might have been, or what they had on the menu besides french fries, but it was absolutely my favorite thing. We would go in, always sitting at the same table, as if it had our name on it. The waitress would come to take our order carrying a brand new unopened bottle of ketchup and she would remove the nearly full bottle already on the table! Then without another word, when she brought the menus out she would bring me a plate of french fries. I could make one small order of french fries last through a whole bottle of ketchup and nobody stopped me. Dip a fry in the ketchup, lick it off, then swipe it through the ketchup again. And no one ever told me that it wasn’t okay to do that!
After an afternoon resting, we would go back to church for vespers. Long winded prayers and longer songs. By the time we got out of church and drove home, we were all famished. And just as predictably as my grandmother cooking breakfast was the supper she laid on the table Sunday evenings; peanut butter, Karo syrup (light and dark) and margarine, three bowls and three glasses of milk. We would put a tbsp of peanut butter in the bowl, followed by pouring the Karo syrup on top of that, stir it around until it was all mixed together, then break a slice of Hostess white bread into the concoction, let it sit just long enough to soak up a little syrup, then spear it, lean over the bowl and poke it in our mouths. Heaven! Granddaddy liked to have margarine and dark syrup for is second bowl, I always wanted peanut butter and light syrup in mine. When were fully satiated, the table was cleared, dishes washed and dried (without the benefit of an electric dishwasher) and Sundays drew to a close.
Loss cannot be explained,
Elizabeth Bishop tried by saying, the art of losing
isn’t hard to master, She’s right it isn’t hard,
it is thrust upon you with the sound of a gun,
the pull of a choke collar, cancer in the body.
or the lack thereof
remain long after the world would have you moving on.
The ashes have been scattered.
It is time to go back to work.
That’s when despair takes over
Black holes that close in on themselves and expand
and all the clichés of creeping fog
Dark clouds, grim reaper
have been used.
You are left with No Words.
I realize, for all of my poet friends, that this is not
It is a rant!
Raging against the night as Dylan Thomas demanded his dad should do.
I am tired of raging And crying,
I am tired of losing faster, faster, still faster.
Within each loss is the history of all That came before.
One giant gaping hole that screams, then moans,
then wishes for release. To leave the sphere that causes so
much pain, so often and so near.
I am finished trying to explain what can’t be said.
Too much, too often, too close
Black holes that close in on themselves and expand
The falling into despair is such a death
Today’s writing assignment from Writing 101: Write about a loss: something (or someone) that was part of your life, and isn’t any more. This doesn’t need to be a depressing exercise;.
Ha! The times I have chosen to write about loss have been very depressing times indeed! I once remarked to my sister that it seemed like the only times I wrote were when I was grieving. Personal grief and national tragedies were the fodder for my writing life. No wonder I avoided writing! I’ve spent this day writing about anything but loss, avoiding the assigned topic, that avoidance fueled by memories of other forays into writing about loss. But I am committed to finishing this challenge to myself, to write every day for 30 days on a topic suggested by the Writing 101 challenge.
However, I hardly know where to begin. My life, like most lives has been plagued with loss. Sometimes it felt like my life was a Greek tragedy or as my mother used to say about her life: a soap opera! There was the loss of my first tooth, the loss of status as the baby of the family when my brother, Raymond, was born. There was the loss of innocence followed by the loss of a fantasy world as I grew from childhood to adulthood. The loss of boyfriends was no minor subplot to my adolescence, in fact, those had to be the biggest tragedies of my teen life! There was the loss of my childlike view of God, there was the divorce, and eventually the empty nest. More grievous than all of those has been loss of family and other loved ones to death, some tragic, all painful. I have written about those losses in other venues usually when the pain was greatest.
Someone has said that each new beginning is preceded by a loss and this is no less true when the new beginning is a positive one and much welcomed. The most recent loss for me was brought about by my own volition, freely chosen in the hope of lessening the physical distance between me, my children and my grandchildren. I looked forward to reuniting with old friends, celebrating holidays with family and reawakening my writing life. I have been able to do those things, but it didn’t come without a cost.
At times it feels like I’ve lost my self. The self I was in Albuquerque, that person who loved her home, the life she had created from nothing. Moving to Albuquerque in 2006, I didn’t know anyone. I was starting a new job in a strange environment, having never worked in a jail before. All of that was by my choice, too, and I loved it (well maybe not being in the jail so much but at least I was working in the profession I had chosen and ostensibly helping inmates learn to make better choices in the future.) I had dreamed about New Mexico, sacrificed to move there, and made the most of every moment I was there. If I had been childless, I know I would have moved there sooner and lived there longer! But needing to be with family had finally outweighed my love for New Mexico, the sun, the Sandia Mountains, the physicality and geography of the place, as well as the friends who had become like family, and my spiritual mentors who had been a great influence on me and who, inadvertently had ignited the flame that fueled the need I had to return to Louisville. It was the deepening connection with God that made me realize how important it was that I return to family.
The first few weeks in Louisville, I felt like someone had died and that someone was me. I had lost the structure of my everyday life. In New Mexico, I worked, I shopped, I went to church, I attended a very special book club, where we spent more time catching up with each other than we did discussing the books we often hadn’t even read. I functioned as a prayer chaplain and the leader of a spiritual group within the church. Those people were like family to me and the loss of their immediate presence in my life is the hardest to accept. In Louisville, I worked (fortunate enough to bring my NM job with me and work from home!) but everything was different. I didn’t know the layout of the stores. I didn’t know where to find things. The nearest Barnes and Noble was on the other side of town! The house I had rented across country wasn’t to my liking. It had the right number of bedrooms, it had an office, a basement, a dishwasher, a huge back yare, and grass. But the closets were too small, the stairs too steep, the basement unfinished, even the grass in the yard that I had wanted for my dogs, (who had grown up running on xeriscaping) needed to be mowed too often! And in my first month here, I learned that my eyesight was so bad that I could no longer drive (another loss!!) and so the loss of personal freedom added to my feeling that this decision had been a very bad one!
The one thing that had been missing in my New Mexico life was writing. I tried to write, I joined a writing collective, but never went to the meetings, I went on “artist’s dates” as Julia Cameron’s suggests in her book The Artist’s Way. I made dates with myself to write and let nothing get in the way. I faithfully kept those dates and would write for an hour or two, in coffee shops, in book stores, on the college campus lawn, all in an attempt to rekindle my desire to write, but nothing worked. I knew that in New Mexico I missed my writing self. I don’t know why Louisville KY is my writing home, perhaps that is a subject to pursue another day.
It has taken me several months to begin to feel as if I belong here. I still haven’t replaced my church family, I probably never will, neither have I found a book club that rivals my Albuquerque connections. But what I have found is a reconnection with my family, the delight of being near my grandchildren, writers who have welcomed me back into the fold once again, and a strong desire to express myself through the written word.
EPILOGUE: If every new beginning is preceded by a loss, then every loss offers the opportunity for a new beginning!
“It’s knowing that your door is always open and your path is free to walk that makes me tend to leave my sleeping bag rolled up and stashed behind your couch. And it’s knowing I’m not shackled by forgotten words and bonds and the ink stains that are dried upon some line that keeps you in the back roads by the rivers of my memory; that keeps you ever gentle on my mind.”
The song, Gentle on My mind written by John Hartford and popularized by Glen Campbell in 1967. The song makes me think of my brother, who was always gentle on my mind and my daughter, Amy, who was born that year. The significance of one song that permeated my comings and goings surprises me. When I was asked to write about the 3 most important songs in my life, this was the first song that popped into my mind. I didn’t expect that. I don’t know what I expected, but not that song. Images of an open road, driving down the highway, the Florida beaches, but most of all, my brother leaving Dallas to travel to Ft. Myers, Fla and moving in with me, cloud my memory and the remembrances of being a new mother, without any other family, makes it especially poignant and memorable for m. During the time my 24 y/o brother camped on my couch, we lolled around during the day, as much as we could loll with a baby in the house. We watched “The Mike Douglas Show” and “The Young and the Restless.” We walked to the Thomas Edison museum behind my small 1 bedroom house, pushing the stroller in front of us, and commenting every single time on the size and shape of the Banyan tree, a type that neither he nor I had ever seen before. We took turns cooking dinner (he made a mean barbecue sauce!) and finally, after the newborn was in bed for the next 4-6 hours, we played BlackJack. I was 19 at the time so I was able to stay up 48 hours without major impairment. (To do so today would probably render me psychotic!)
My new stereo was state of the art for 1967, and it played vinyl records almost 24 hours a day. Glen Campbell was one of my favorites. I didn’t even realize I was a country music fan, I would have told you that I was a rock and roll gal, but singers like Ray Price, Johnny Cash, Bill Anderson, Bobbi Gentry, Kenny Rogers, Patsy Cline and Tammy Wynette were on my #1 hit parade in the 60s.
When I discovered Rock-Country, I had found my place in the music world. The Everly Brothers, Ricky Nelson, The First Edition, Roger Miller, Bruce Springsteen, Jimmy Buffet, and let’s not forget Elvis Presley, who isn’t classified as rock-country, but his beginnings had a gospel country sound.
While I love the Oldies, and to me the Oldies are the 50s and 60s music, a more contemporary song, Wind Beneath my Wings, recorded by Bette Midler as part of a sound track for Wind Beneath My Wings made a huge impact on my life when I first heard it in the early 90s. The song still resonates with me. My children have been the wind beneath my wings from their conception. They may not know that they are my hero, but surely having them in my life has inspired me to be a better person.
Finally, Imagine, by John Lennon, reminds me that there is the potential for good in the world. That we can use our minds to create a better world, that we live in our imaginations. Ironic that he was assassinated and sad that more people can’t: “Imagine there’s no countries it isn’t hard to do, nothing to kill or die for and no religion too. Imagine all the people Living life in peace…… You may say I’m a dreamer but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us And the world will be as one.”
Thank you, John for reminding us.
If I could be transported to any time and place, I would choose my grandparent’s home in Lone Star, Texas, the time frame would be June 1959 to September 1960.. The house itself was located on San Jacinto Drive. I no longer remember the exact address, but I remember the small clapboard ranch painted white with green trim. The carport had a small storage shed and housed only one car. My grandmothers 1956 Green Dodge sat in the carport, my grandfather’s olive green Plymouth was parked in the driveway, when it wasn’t parked at the Lone Star Steel Company, the Lone Star Methodist Church, or the local Piggly Wiggly. He did 90% of the driving, my grandmother, in fact, didn’t learn to drive until they moved to Lone Star, at that time she was in her 50s!
The house was perched on a perfectly manicured lawn of Bermuda grass. The one Blue Spruce pine in the front yard was the tree I hugged, the one I wrote poetry inspired by, and the tree I wish I could see see just one more time. The chrysanthemums, begonias, amaryllis and daffodils were planted an the side of the house, terraced like stair steps, where I loved to pretend that i was a princess in the Royal gardens. My grandfather’s design of carefully orchestrated reds, yellows, pinks and purples were as artful as any painting. Purple irises bloomed in front of the house and the American Beauty rose bushes were planted in the back yard. The yard itself was not the postage stamp size of most of the homes on that block, it was on a corner lot, and afforded twice as much room to run, play and meditate as the other yards nearby, and I often did all three of those things. I didn’t know at 12, that i was meditating, but looking out over the flowers, I felt closely connected to God. The house sat above the other houses, and looking down into the yards below added to my feeling of being the royal princess looking out over her subjects!
Entering from the side door into the kitchen, smells of cookies baking, chicken and dumplings bubbling on the stove, sounds of Lawrence Welk’s orchestra or some jazz band from the 40s greeted you. My grandmother showed her love through food, kitchen cabinets, refrigerator and freezer were always well stocked, and her home- cooked meals are the ones I crave for comfort food. Besides sights, sounds and smells to greet you, 2 redfawn female pekingese bounced into the kitchen to see who was at the door with their tails wagging and Ling Toi sitting on her hind legs flapping her front paws at me. If a stranger, the mailman or a neighbor knocked on the door, the barking would commence, and if a male entered the house, Little Princess China would snap at their heels. Even my grandfather didn’t have immunity unless he wore shoes some other color besides black. Pinky, as we called her, did not like men’s black shoes!
The kitchen opened directly into the living/dining room with it’s dining room table on the right of the door and the couch, chair, ottoman, coffee table, and television on the left; the window air conditioning unit buzzed. It was the only air conditioner in the house, and yet it was always slightly chilly suring summer, even in August. A multi-colored granny square afghan was placed on the back of the couch, and my grandmother’s knitting basket sat at one end of it. Often during the day, my art supplies, consisting of things like kleenex boxes, toilet paper rolls, frozen juice cans, and tissues for making paper flowers were strewed across the coffee table, which held a crocheted white doily under a crystal candy dish, usually filed with caramels . The dark mahogany bureau matched the dining room table, but was placed in the living room due to size constraints. The bureau held tablecloths, napkins, and behind the side doors were boxes of chocolate covered cherries.. I was usually able to snag a chocolate covered cherry about once a week without fear of consequences. I still don’t know whether they didn’t know I did it, or with the patience only a grandparent has, simply overlooked the misdeed.
A door from both the kitchen and the living room led to the hall that took you to the bedrooms and the bath, My bedroom sat next to the kitchen, and was flanked on the other side by my grandparents’ bedroom . A right angle turn into the hall led to the bath and other bedroom. The 3rd bedroom, about the size of today’s walk in closets, was converted into a library/sewing room/music room. My grandfather’s recliner was my favorite chair in the house. I curled up for hours reading books taken from the built in bookshelves, reading books like Five Little Peppers and How they Grew (and every sequel that Margaret Sydney wrote!) also Gene STratton Porter’s Freckles, Her Father’s Daughter, the Girl of the Limberlost (the only book my grandmother ever read!). I read Tolstoy, Thomas Merton, Ayn Rand, Kafka, Zane Grey, Little Women, Voltaire, the Wizard of Oz, Through the Looking Glass, and Gone With the Wind, to name a few. Quite the advanced education for a 12 year old girl in the sixties!. Books were my ticket to another world, although the one i lived in was lovely and loving, the adventures I had while reading fueled my imagination to want more, to think more and to do more. That was also the year I learned I enjoyed writing.
I wrote my first book. Alicia and Alyse go to Paris. (No doubt inapired by the book Mrs ‘arris goes to Paris.) It was a fiction about twins, who traveled by boat to Paris for a publicity tour for their book. Their constant companions were their pekingese dogs and of course, they fell in love with their agents! After writing that, I started to write poetry, and kept myself busy reading Emily Dickinson, Elizabeth Barret Browning, Tennyson and Keats. I wrote a parody of The Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam for sixth grade English. not knowing at the time that a Rubaiyat was itself the name of a poetic form.
1960 is the year I return to when I need to remember that life is basically good, when I need to feel total unconditional love, and that is the memory that propels me forward in my writing life and never lets me quit no matter what.
There are several things that make her name and her legacy special to me, the first is that my middle name is Marguerite, and so I feel a kinship (Marguerite means “a pearl) and second because my grandmother,’s maiden name was Bailey. (I was named Marguerite as a legacy from my mother, Helen Marguerite, and my grandmother, Julia Marguerite, and for an ancestress, Marguerite LeBeau and feel a strong connection to the women who bore that name before me and to those (my niece, Lisa Marguerite and great niece, Phoebe Marguerite.) I believe in the mystical, and like Maya Angelou, I think there is great significance in words and in names. Coincidences like her name and her brother’s name have drawn me now for decades. She also spent a great deal of her time, and feels that she was raised by, her grandmother. Another paralell to my life.
I first learned of Maya Angelou in a University of Louisville women’s literature course in the early 80s. I was in my 30s, going to college after marriage and birthing 6 children. I was thirsty for knowledge. My previous education had been self-taught, when I was nineteen, I went to the library, checked out books, starting with Jane Austen, moving to the Bronte Sisters, followed by Willa Cather, reading Thodore Dreiser, George Eliot, Flaubert, and on and on. I think I stopped somewhere in the Js or Ks, by that time motherhood demanded more and more of my time. But the take home point was that most of the authors I read were men, and the occasional woman was an anomaly, it was clear that men were superior authers (or so the patriarchy wanted us to believe.)
Consequently, a class devoted entirely to contemporary women writers was compelling, and I had to take it. I was thirsty for feminism and drank it down. Maya Angelou stood out for several reasons, not the least of which was her skin color. If women were less “authorial” than men, then how much more so were Black women writers.
Maya Angelou also stood out because she had, as she would say, “given up her voice. She functioned as a mute for 5 1/2 years (from age 7 ½ to 13) after the man who raped her was beaten to death upon her telling of the event, and she believed it was her fault that he was dead. She decided that if her voice killed, she better not talk. And when she regained her voice and insisted on telling the truth, about women’s lives, about black lives, about all of us, her voice was stronger than ever.
She knew why the caged bird sings and she knew what was on the pulse of the morning. She was one of only 2 American poets (or any poet for that matter) to read her own poem for the inauguration of a president. She wrote “On the pulse of the morning” at the request of President Elect Bill Clinton in 1993. She won a Pulitzer Prize for Poetry and she was honored with the Presidential Medal of Freedom by President Obama. Later, she was asked to write a poem for the United Nations, long after she had been ostracized from entering the United Nations building because she was a black woman. Delivering that poem to a delegation of world leaders was one of the most poignant moments in her life, by her admission.
All of these things are important, there are other reasons I relate to her, one being a simple fact about her writing habits. She wrote with Roget’s Thesaurus by her side, she wrote with pen on legal pads, both practices of mine for over 30 decades (although lately, I have to confess that the ease of typing words has lessened my practice of writing in longhand, and the quickness of using the internet to look something up, makes the Thesaurus merely a decoration in my bookcase!
The other fact, and one that resonates most deeply was her love of God and her study of Unity Principles. (I have been a student of Unity for several years and Dr. Maya Angelou also called herself a student, in spite of the fact that she was being awarded an honorary doctorate from Unity Village. I am so glad that she learned of that honor prior to her death. Her spirituality resonated with me, also her quiet wisdom, her courageous faith, and her down to earth philosophy of simple goodness, living by principle not by feeling, and always, always remembering “God Loves Me.” She always demanded respect in her presence because “Words Become Things” and “Words have energy and affect those around us.” In an Oprah Interview on Super Soul Sunday, she stated that she believed that the energy of words gets in the walls of a place, the rugs, and on your clothes, and eventually they will get into you. “So be careful what you allow in your presence.” Wise words from a very wise and learned woman.
Maya Angelou died May 28, 2014. She knew why the caged bird sings, I know her Spirit soars.
Ref: Interviews with Maya, Oprah Winfrey show on the OWN network. 06/01/14